The Power of Our Village: A Black Mother’s Gratitude

As a Black mother, I know the weight of responsibility that comes with raising a child. We wear so many hats—provider, protector, nurturer, teacher, chauffeur, disciplinarian, and cheerleader. Some days, it feels like we have to be everything all at once, with no time to breathe. But I've learned something invaluable on this journey: we were never meant to do this alone.

I rely deeply on my son’s village—our village. They are the hands that lift us when the load gets heavy, the voices of wisdom when I second-guess myself, and the extra set of eyes and ears when I can’t be in two places at once. They are the ones who show up, time and time again, in ways big and small.

Our village looks like his godmother, who picks him up from school when work runs late. It’s my in-laws who he spends the day with when school is out for a random teacher workday. It’s our friends who remind him to be respectful when I’m not there to give him the look. It’s my mother who spoils him with love but never hesitates to keep him in line. It’s the men in our circle who step in, showing him what strength and integrity look like.

I am beyond grateful for this village. Their love and support are woven into the fabric of my son’s upbringing. I would be stretched too thin, exhausted, and overwhelmed without them. But because of them, I can breathe. I can show up as a better mother, knowing I am not carrying this responsibility alone.

To my village—our village—thank you. Thank you for the rides, the advice, the discipline, the encouragement, the prayers, and the laughter. Thank you for being there, not just for my son but also for me. I see you, I appreciate you, and I am forever grateful.

To my fellow Black mothers: Lean on your village. Let them help. You don’t have to do everything alone. Asking for support is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of wisdom. We are stronger when we stand together, when we lift each other up, and when we recognize that community is at the heart of our survival and our success.

So, tell me, who is in your village?